There’s nothing quite as intoxicating as the days and weeks leading up to your marriage proposal. You’re madly in love and can’t stop thinking about her and your future together. The mere idea of moving her relationship status from girlfriend to fiancée can be all-consuming.

Yet, it’s not enough to go engagement ring shopping, drop to one knee, and pop the question. Asking your partner to marry you is the ultimate gesture of love and should involve a real investment of time, effort, and chivalry. You only get one shot at pulling off a deeply romantic proposal she’ll love forever.

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Most people make one of three mistakes when they propose to their loved one:

  • Fail to come up with a sound game plan, which should be the starting point for any memorable surprise proposal;
  • Underestimate the time it takes to pull off a personalized engagement;
  • Make the wedding proposal about themselves instead of their significant other.

And with so many details to keep track of, popping the question can quickly become overwhelming.

This guide is informed by unequaled marriage proposal experience. We aim to inspire you, focus on what matters, and help make this life-changing day with your sweetheart unforgettable.

Feel free to use the drop-down menu below to skip to the most relevant sections.

How to Propose: the basics

We all want a surprise marriage proposal that will make her heart sing—one that flows naturally, feels sincere, and crescendos with an emotional surprise element.

But the difference between wanting and achieving is your ability to set realistic goals and stick to a fail-safe game plan. Then, hold yourself accountable.

Most women have been conditioned to expect a chivalrous proposal from when they were still girls.

Brooklyn Bridge luxury marriage proposal
Loewe coat. Casadei heels. Jennifer Fisher hoops. Jacquie Aiche necklace and ring.
Lenne Chai

By default, the Action button is set to toggle between Ring and Silent modes. If you choose a different action, you can use Control Centre to mute or use Focus filters to automatically set your iPhone to silent.

Whatever you’re doing, the Action button is at the ready. Launch Camera to catch a spontaneous selfie. Record an instant voice memo. You can even select Shortcut to open an app or run a series of tasks like switching on the lights in your living room and playing music.

Modern Wedding
Photography. Redefined.

Brilliant Details

You can answer calls or messages from your iPhone directly on your Mac. Copy images, video or text from your iPhone, then paste into another app on your nearby Mac. And with iCloud, you can access your favourite files from either your iPhone or Mac.

Priceless Emotions

Magazine-worthy Editorials

Frameable Family Portraits

We all want a surprise marriage proposal that will make her heart sing—one that flows naturally, feels sincere, and crescendos with an emotional surprise-element.

But the difference between wanting and achieving is your ability to set realistic goals and stick to a fail-safe gameplan. Then hold yourself accountable.

How to propose to a woman
How to propose to a woman

Most women have been conditioned to expect a chivalrous proposal from the time they were still girls.

We all want a surprise marriage proposal that will make her heart sing—one that flows naturally, feels sincere, and crescendos with an emotional surprise-element.

But the difference between wanting and achieving is your ability to set realistic goals and stick to a fail-safe gameplan. Then hold yourself accountable.

Step Into Imagination

Get her dad’s blessing.

Before you pop the 4-word question, you must secure her dad’s blessing. And we’re not talking about a casual “I’d like to marry your daughter” phone call.

Asking your future father-in-law for his daughter’s hand is a signal of respect to him, her, tradition, and the romantic institution of marriage. It’s the proper way to propose like a gentleman.

Brooklyn Bridge luxury marriage proposal
Loewe coat. Casadei heels. Jennifer Fisher hoops. Jacquie Aiche necklace and ring.
Lenne Chai

The difference between wanting and achieving is your ability to set realistic goals and stick to a fail-safe game plan. Then, hold yourself accountable.

That said, you need to time your in-person visit to your girlfriend’s family such that:

  • Her dad is available and able to commit quality time;
  • Select a date when you know your girlfriend will be out of town or otherwise busy so as not to raise any suspicions. If you can trust your girlfriend’s best friend to keep a secret, send them on a weekend getaway together. Like this, you can visit your girlfriend’s family in peace of mind;
  • If, for some reason, it’s not possible (or desirable) to ask her father, then ask her mother or sibling for permission. Remember that it’s about being considerate and respecting her and her family.

Decide when to propose.

We all want a surprise marriage proposal that will make her heart sing—one that flows naturally, feels sincere, and crescendos with an emotional surprise element.

But the difference between wanting and achieving is your ability to set realistic goals and stick to a fail-safe gameplan. Then hold yourself accountable.

Most women have been conditioned to expect a chivalrous proposal from the time they were still girls.

Brooklyn Bridge luxury marriage proposal
Loewe coat. Casadei heels. Jennifer Fisher hoops. Jacquie Aiche necklace and ring.
Lenne Chai

But the difference between wanting and achieving is your ability to set realistic goals and stick to a fail-safe gameplan. Then hold yourself accountable.

With that said, you need to time your in-person visit to your girlfriend’s family such that

  • her dad is available and able to commit quality time (be respectful of his work schedule);
  • Select a date and time when you know your girlfriend will be out of town or otherwise engaged as to not raise any suspicions. If you can trust your girlfriend’s best friend to keep a secret, I like the idea of sending them on a weekend getaway together. Like this, you can visit your girlfriend’s family in peace of mind;
  • If, for some reason, it’s not possible (or desirable) to ask her father, then ask her mother or brother for permission. Remember that it’s about being considerate and paying respect to her and her family.
Tip
Select a date and time when you know your girlfriend will be out of town or otherwise engaged as to not raise any suspicions. If you can trust your girlfriend’s best friend to keep a secret, I like the idea of sending them on a weekend getaway together. Like this, you can visit your girlfriend’s family in peace of mind
nyc fall engagement photos

Modern Wedding
Photography. Redefined.

Brilliant Details

You can answer calls or messages from your iPhone directly on your Mac. Copy images, video or text from your iPhone, then paste into another app on your nearby Mac. And with iCloud, you can access your favourite files from either your iPhone or Mac.

Priceless Emotions

Magazine-worthy Editorials

Frameable Family Portraits

Get a ring as unique as your love.

Before you pop the 4-word question, you must secure her dad’s blessing. And we’re not talking about a casual “I’d like to marry your daughter” phone call.

Asking your future father-in-law for his daughter’s hand is a signal of respect to him, her, tradition, and the romantic institution of marriage. It’s the proper way to propose like a gentleman.

Brooklyn Bridge luxury marriage proposal
Loewe coat. Casadei heels. Jennifer Fisher hoops. Jacquie Aiche necklace and ring.
Lenne Chai

The difference between wanting and achieving is your ability to set realistic goals and stick to a fail-safe game plan. Then, hold yourself accountable.

That said, you need to time your in-person visit to your girlfriend’s family such that:

  • Her dad is available and able to commit quality time;
  • Select a date when you know your girlfriend will be out of town or otherwise busy so as not to raise any suspicions. If you can trust your girlfriend’s best friend to keep a secret, send them on a weekend getaway together. Like this, you can visit your girlfriend’s family in peace of mind;
  • If, for some reason, it’s not possible (or desirable) to ask her father, then ask her mother or sibling for permission. Remember that it’s about being considerate and respecting her and her family.

So, we watched our proposal video separately because Mario is finishing up late today. We watched it while Facetiming, and we were simply speechless!!! Really, no words; it’s so beautiful! I want to watch it 10,000 times over! It will never get boring. It’s pure perfection—I can’t believe how incredible it turned out. Thank you so much, Vincent!

Maria & Mario

Do I need a proposal planner?

We all want a surprise marriage proposal that will make her heart sing—one that flows naturally, feels sincere, and crescendos with an emotional surprise element.

But the difference between wanting and achieving is your ability to set realistic goals and stick to a fail-safe gameplan. Then hold yourself accountable.

Most women have been conditioned to expect a chivalrous proposal from the time they were still girls.

Brooklyn Bridge luxury marriage proposal
Loewe coat. Casadei heels. Jennifer Fisher hoops. Jacquie Aiche necklace and ring.
Lenne Chai

But the difference between wanting and achieving is your ability to set realistic goals and stick to a fail-safe gameplan. Then hold yourself accountable.

With that said, you need to time your in-person visit to your girlfriend’s family such that

  • her dad is available and able to commit quality time (be respectful of his work schedule);
  • Select a date and time when you know your girlfriend will be out of town or otherwise engaged as to not raise any suspicions. If you can trust your girlfriend’s best friend to keep a secret, I like the idea of sending them on a weekend getaway together. Like this, you can visit your girlfriend’s family in peace of mind;
  • If, for some reason, it’s not possible (or desirable) to ask her father, then ask her mother or brother for permission. Remember that it’s about being considerate and paying respect to her and her family.
Tip
Select a date and time when you know your girlfriend will be out of town or otherwise engaged as to not raise any suspicions. If you can trust your girlfriend’s best friend to keep a secret, I like the idea of sending them on a weekend getaway together. Like this, you can visit your girlfriend’s family in peace of mind

We all want a surprise marriage proposal that will make her heart sing—one that flows naturally, feels sincere, and crescendos with an emotional surprise element.

But the difference between wanting and achieving is your ability to set realistic goals and stick to a fail-safe gameplan. Then hold yourself accountable.

Most women have been conditioned to expect a chivalrous proposal from the time they were still girls.

Decide where to propose

Before you pop the 4-word question, you must secure her dad’s blessing. And we’re not talking about a casual “I’d like to marry your daughter” phone call.

Asking your future father-in-law for his daughter’s hand is a signal of respect to him, her, tradition, and the romantic institution of marriage. It’s the proper way to propose like a gentleman.

How to propose to your girlfriend

How To Propose To A Girl: The Definitive 13-Step Guide

Choosing to propose in Paris, especially at the Trocadéro, with the Iron Lady in the background, guarantees an exceptional WOW Factor and incredibly eye-catching photos. However, Trocadéro can be busy with crowds, vendors, street performers, and events.

Engagement photos, Victoria Monét And Kelly Rowland Have A Lot More In Common Than They Realized

Choosing to propose in Paris, especially at the Trocadéro, with the Iron Lady in the background, guarantees an exceptional WOW Factor and incredibly eye-catching photos.

Boudoir VICTORIA MONET STEPS INTO THE SPOTLIGHT 

Choosing to propose in Paris, especially at the Trocadéro, with the Iron Lady in the background, guarantees an exceptional WOW Factor and incredibly eye-catching photos. However, Trocadéro can be busy with crowds, vendors, street performers, and events.

Boudoir VICTORIA MONET STEPS INTO THE SPOTLIGHT 

Choosing to propose in Paris, especially at the Trocadéro, with the Iron Lady in the background, guarantees an exceptional WOW Factor and incredibly eye-catching photos. However, Trocadéro can be busy with crowds, vendors, street performers, and events.

How to propose to your girlfriend

How To Propose To A Girl: The Definitive 13-Step Guide

Choosing to propose in Paris, especially at the Trocadéro, with the Iron Lady in the background, guarantees an exceptional WOW Factor and incredibly eye-catching photos. However, Trocadéro can be busy with crowds, vendors, street performers, and events.

Engagement photos, Victoria Monét And Kelly Rowland Have A Lot More In Common Than They Realized

Choosing to propose in Paris, especially at the Trocadéro, with the Iron Lady in the background, guarantees an exceptional WOW Factor and incredibly eye-catching photos.

Book a photographer & videographer

We all want a surprise marriage proposal that will make her heart sing—one that flows naturally, feels sincere, and crescendos with an emotional surprise element.

But the difference between wanting and achieving is your ability to set realistic goals and stick to a fail-safe gameplan. Then hold yourself accountable.

Most women have been conditioned to expect a chivalrous proposal from the time they were still girls.

Brooklyn Bridge luxury marriage proposal
Loewe coat. Casadei heels. Jennifer Fisher hoops. Jacquie Aiche necklace and ring.
Lenne Chai

But the difference between wanting and achieving is your ability to set realistic goals and stick to a fail-safe gameplan. Then hold yourself accountable.

With that said, you need to time your in-person visit to your girlfriend’s family such that

  • her dad is available and able to commit quality time (be respectful of his work schedule);
  • Select a date and time when you know your girlfriend will be out of town or otherwise engaged as to not raise any suspicions. If you can trust your girlfriend’s best friend to keep a secret, I like the idea of sending them on a weekend getaway together. Like this, you can visit your girlfriend’s family in peace of mind;
  • If, for some reason, it’s not possible (or desirable) to ask her father, then ask her mother or brother for permission. Remember that it’s about being considerate and paying respect to her and her family.
Tip
Select a date and time when you know your girlfriend will be out of town or otherwise engaged as to not raise any suspicions. If you can trust your girlfriend’s best friend to keep a secret, I like the idea of sending them on a weekend getaway together. Like this, you can visit your girlfriend’s family in peace of mind
nyc fall engagement photos

Modern Wedding
Photography. Redefined.

Brilliant Details

You can answer calls or messages from your iPhone directly on your Mac. Copy images, video or text from your iPhone, then paste into another app on your nearby Mac. And with iCloud, you can access your favourite files from either your iPhone or Mac.

Priceless Emotions

Magazine-worthy Editorials

Frameable Family Portraits

Photoshoot vs. Paparazzi proposal

Before you pop the 4-word question, you must secure her dad’s blessing. And we’re not talking about a casual “I’d like to marry your daughter” phone call.

Before you pop the 4-word question, you must secure her dad’s blessing. And we’re not talking about a casual “I’d like to marry your daughter” phone call.

Tip
Asking your future father-in-law for his daughter’s hand is a signal of respect to him, her, tradition, and the romantic institution of marriage. It’s the proper way to propose like a gentleman.

Before you pop the 4-word question, you must secure her dad’s blessing. And we’re not talking about a casual “I’d like to marry your daughter” phone call.

How to propose to your girlfriend

How To Propose To A Girl: The Definitive 13-Step Guide

Choosing to propose in Paris, especially at the Trocadéro, with the Iron Lady in the background, guarantees an exceptional WOW Factor and incredibly eye-catching photos. However, Trocadéro can be busy with crowds, vendors, street performers, and events.

Engagement photos, Victoria Monét And Kelly Rowland Have A Lot More In Common Than They Realized

Choosing to propose in Paris, especially at the Trocadéro, with the Iron Lady in the background, guarantees an exceptional WOW Factor and incredibly eye-catching photos.

Boudoir VICTORIA MONET STEPS INTO THE SPOTLIGHT 

Choosing to propose in Paris, especially at the Trocadéro, with the Iron Lady in the background, guarantees an exceptional WOW Factor and incredibly eye-catching photos. However, Trocadéro can be busy with crowds, vendors, street performers, and events.

Boudoir VICTORIA MONET STEPS INTO THE SPOTLIGHT 

Choosing to propose in Paris, especially at the Trocadéro, with the Iron Lady in the background, guarantees an exceptional WOW Factor and incredibly eye-catching photos. However, Trocadéro can be busy with crowds, vendors, street performers, and events.

How to propose to your girlfriend

How To Propose To A Girl: The Definitive 13-Step Guide

Choosing to propose in Paris, especially at the Trocadéro, with the Iron Lady in the background, guarantees an exceptional WOW Factor and incredibly eye-catching photos. However, Trocadéro can be busy with crowds, vendors, street performers, and events.

Engagement photos, Victoria Monét And Kelly Rowland Have A Lot More In Common Than They Realized

Choosing to propose in Paris, especially at the Trocadéro, with the Iron Lady in the background, guarantees an exceptional WOW Factor and incredibly eye-catching photos.